Is there a part of you that is feeling disconnected from your partner?
Sometimes in relationships it might feel safer to just walk away or distance ourselves from our partners, in hopes the problem will just go away. Oftentimes what might happen is we choose to disconnect, rather than connect. This tends to make relationships feel unbearable and often result in lack of intimacy. Why is it that we choose to argue and fight, rather than be intimate and compassionate toward one another? Why not be supported in finding an alternative way to connect? Good news, couples therapy can help.
Has the intimacy seemed to vanish as if it was never even there?
Does it seem like you woke up one morning next to a stranger and you have no idea who that person is, let alone care to be intimate with them? A bulk of my work with couples therapy consists of tuning into the here and now, to begin to understand each individual’s journey with intimacy, where did the couple lose intimacy, and where does the couple want intimacy. Stopping the negative spiral that created the lack of intimacy is the healing work that it takes to thrive in a relationship. Opening awareness into the healing language begins with understanding present moment needs and desires. The powerful work with couples therapy, transforms and encourages a couple to find the courage to explore the deeper meaning of intimacy in their relationship.
If you could imagine your perfect relationship, what would it look like?
Would you have the ability to talk to your partner without being defensive? Would you be able to trust your partner when they are not around? Would you be able to trust yourself while you are away? Would you feel safe enough in the relationship to speak about some of the deeper wounding you are currently experiencing? What if no one was to blame? When we begin to look at these dynamics through couples therapy, we begin to understand there is more to a relationship than previously thought.
Creating safety and meaning in a relationship also creates freedom to be accepted by your partner. We all have our shortcomings, but these can be the quirks that fuel our passion. This is experienced as a gentle move from blaming and arguing and yelling and lying and cheating to embracing and meaningmaking and accepting and being vulnerable.
In my practice, I help couples who have lost the ability to connect and the desire to be intimate. They move away from each other instead of toward each other by:
– purposeful distancing
– the inability to connect
– lack of trust
– a lack of physical connection
How I can help you connect better.
I rely heavily on Gestalt Therapy principles learned through the Seattle Relationship Clinic, as well as depth psychological principles that explore unconscious desires to live fulfilling lives. If communication is not built upon, the couple will begin to run in circles resulting in continual engagement of chaotic disconnecting behaviors, rather than connecting. With my support, you can stop running in circles and learn how to embrace the love, desire, and connection you so long for.
As a couple opens awareness to what is currently manifesting in their current relationship, they then become free to explore what is stopping them from moving forward in life or the relationship. In working this way, the couple is invited to attend to their own feelings and emotions individually. A partner is allowed to speak his or her truth while in session, with me as a guide and mediator, free from interruptions and interpretations from the other. Together we’ll increase awareness and the use of one’s own voice as a healing language.
It is my honor and privilege to be the kind of therapist that allows the deeper emotions to be spoken and heard from each partner. In hearing the other’s words or deeper wounding, the partner is then allowed to embrace the other in a more emotionally mature and intentional way.
Schedule now to learn the beneifts of being able to communicate to your partner.
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Couples therapy: connection, meaning making, intimacy